We pray every night with our kids, but praying as a couple is something that we almost never do. It’s something we have always wanted to do, and know is an important part of our marriage as we grow and develop our relationships with God and each other.
My first thought was… “how do I pray in front of my husband??” It brings on a little bit of hesitation mostly because it’s something new for us. Scott prayed for us the first few nights. I prayed for us last night. And the answer to my question of “how”… just pray. Pray before the two who love me most—my husband and my God—about anything and everything. The other night I realized it was a way to communicate to my husband something that was heavy on my heart—something that I didn’t have the courage to talk about to Scott on my own.
Praying together this week has opened us up to the start of a more meaningful relationship with God, and with each other. We have been making an effort to pray together at least once daily – we’ve probably prayed together more than we have in the last ten years that we’ve been a couple! The first few times it felt a little bit uncomfortable, but it is becoming more natural now.
Prayer is one of the most intimate things that we do and I feel like we’ve both learned more about each other and have grown closer than I had originally expected.
I’ve been looking and haven’t really found much Biblical passage that specifically encourages married couples to pray together. (Of course, there aren’t any that say not to pray together either). If you find some, please let me know. But, I’ve thought of some scriptures in the book of Matthew that have taken on a new meaning to me since praying with Scott:
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” – Matthew 19:4-6.
I think that we have always understood what the physical and emotional parts of being “one flesh,” mean but we have been missing out on discovering what this means on the spiritual level.
When you can share your pitfalls, your worries and your hopes and dreams with God in front of each other – as husband and wife – not only does it allow you to connect deeper emotionally, but I feel the Spirit working in our lives and bringing us closer together. Also, since we’ve been praying together we haven’t really argued about anything. We’ve had a few minor disagreements, but overall we seem to be connecting on a new level.
Our prayers have also been more powerful and are being answered in a whole new way. This made me also think of another verse in Matthew:
19 “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:19-20.
I’ve always known that when I pray individually God listens and answers my prayers. And I’ve also understood the power of prayer in groups or at church. But, stopping to think and be reminded that when we pray together – just the two of us – God the Spirit is there with us. How amazing is that!?